The Mask

Sipping my hot chamomile tea at my favorite coffee shop – Coffee Vibes (yeah, I’m not really coffee person & they serve great tea also there) , I remove my specs and scanned my eyes through each corner of the surroundings.

I come here every sunday afternoon to write on my articles.
Plus, I just love their velvet cupcakes and macaroons.

I was more of an observer rather than actually using words..

My eyes stopped on that pretty blonde girl.
Frequenting Coffee Vibes so much made me remember the faces that visit the place every sunday.
They look familiar now, rather than strangers.

Pretty blonde girl is waiting for blue-eyed boy. It was their usual sunday date, except it wasn’t..
See, I caught a glimpse of his boyfriend with another woman last night at the club.

As she closed her eyelids slowly, I could feel the sadness taking over her. She Knows.
I felt a moment of despair as I saw the boyfriend pushing the front door of Coffee Vibes.
My gaze shifted to blondie, imagining the worst – a slap maybe? or loud cries?
And, my eyes were left in shock.

She was beaming from ear to ear, receiving her mate in a passionate embrace.

What just happened?

Ohh.. She put on her Mask… The Mask….

But why? Is it because of the money? Or she’s afraid? She thinks she’s not good enough to get someone else?

I shook my head hopelessly.

 

The Mask… Everyone has one..

And, everyone wears it at some point…

But, why? 

Are we afraid of our flaws? Are we afraid that the world will laugh at us?

It’s like that girl who takes so many selfies everywhere because she feels insecure about herself. But, the “likes” on social media makes her more confident.

Or, that someone who molds his personality & transform himself in a completely different person, so that he can be accepted in the group.

The mask… everyone has a mask.. so that they don’t feel rejected and be accepted by the “society”, their “tribe”..

But is it really your tribe if they are accepting your mask instead of your real self? 

What’s the use of having such a tribe, where you have to pretend to be someone else the whole time.. and, the only time when you can be yourself is when you’re alone.
That’s kinda lame.

It’s so rare to find someone who is letting his real self outside, with all the imperfections.

Yeah, I know showing your real self is going to cost you people in your life; maybe they will all leave and you’ll be all alone. Not, maybe.
They are gonna leave you.
But, trust me it’s worth it. 

Because, it’s only when the wrong people leave your life, that the right ones enter.
But, you gotta let go of the mask and JUST BE YOU!

Being you will push away all the wrong people in your life.

Be strong enough to walk alone & to wait for the genuine people, who will really love you with all your flaws.
It’s worth the wait.

 

 

 

 

If You Change Nothing ; Nothing Will Change

Last week, I got sick.
It was a bad flu – Lost my voice and stuffs that happen when you get sick.

That’s not the worst part or the point..

The worst part was that it decreased my productivity at work, my brain stopped working as it had to be, I got less smart.

That Sucks! 

We all hate being sick..
Am not talking about the people who actually love getting sick, to escape from work.
Am talking about people who actually love to live, instead of just being exist.. people like us.. like me..

We hate being sick.. We want More Money..
Our dream Job.. We want..
Good Food.. The best relationship.. We Want.. Our soulmate.. that our business flourishes..
We want success.. Good health.. to be Fit always.. more energy..
We want lots of things.. we want the best.. the best of everything.. like you know – those people who have like everything..

Ah.. so many thing we want.. I want those things too..

Here’s the thing – I know I get sick often & I know also that in order to have a better health, I had to take care of myself.
But, did I?
Nopes. 

Did I change something in my daily life to contribute to a better health?
No, I didn’t… and, the cycle continued..

The same applies to all aspects of our life..

If we are not willing to make the change, we’re gonna lead the same life every year.. the same shitty relationship – low energy or that idea that remains in your head only.

 

If You Change Nothing, Nothing Will Change.

You want more money? You want a better relationship?
Be willing to change something – add something up.

Get out of that comfort zone..

If you change something in your daily routine, you are actually giving rise to a better future.

Yeah, there’s fear – laziness – rejection – the “what if it doesn’t work” – the “wanting to stay in that comfort zone” because it’s familiar, comfortable..

But, if you wanna be extraordinary, you gotta do it..

I always say, your brain is the most powerful muscle – learn to use it wisely.

Make it believe that you’re ready for change because you’re freaking amazing & you wanna be extraordinary, and just take the Leap!

Go For It.. Everything will fall in place.. If you don’t take the first step & actually send the universe that message “I’m bringing some astonishing changes to my life” , the universe will help you and aligns things for you..

You can have an exceptional life, you can seriously have everything that you have ever wanted..
And, NO – THEY AREN’T JUST WORDS!!

If other people can do it , so why CAN’T you?

You Can. And, You Will

I believe in You 🙂

Do it.. it’s NOW or Never :’)

Feeling lost? Get Yourself Back!

Ever got to a point in life where you felt lost? 
Like, something was missing…and you felt like you were losing yourself? 

Life is so unexpected.
It never goes the way we want. The way we planned it.

Now, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t plan anything in our lives.
Make things happen, but be ready to deal with unexpected stuffs too.

And, sometimes in a moment, life changes.
We get a new job. New work environment.
New relationship comes by.
A new social circle.
Money.
It can be anything which just drops out of the universe.

Now, we get so caught up in this “new” thing that just happened to us, that eventually we start to lose ourselves.
This happens because we are trying to adapt to that “new” thing that just happened to us – it’s freaking awesome.. that soulmate love is finally here! Or, my dream job is finally here!

It’s called the honeymoon phase in a new relationship where everything is beautiful.
But, what happened when the phase fades?

The reason why it is important to stand up your ground always.
It’s human nature to get caught up in new stuffs happening around you 🙂

So how do you NOT lose yourself in the process? 

  • You’re responsible for your happiness. Put Yourself First (PYF)

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NO!
Putting yourself first isn’t selfishness!
It’s Self- Love.

We have only one life.
And, we all deserve the best of happiness.

Always ask yourself this –
“Does it makes me happy? ”
If the answer is no, then don’t fucking do it!

If it’s yes, then Just go for it! And, let the universe take care of the rest! 

  • Don’t let go your “self-love time”. 

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It’s normal to get caught up in your new, busy , routine life in the beginning.

But, seriously – Get Your Shit Together when your life has settled down.

Your “me” time? Don’t let it go for anything..
It is so important to have your self-love time every day.

Do what you love every single day of your life 🙂
It doesn’t have to be a big thing.. what do you love?

Just do it!!!

Because, that’s who you are!

  • Be You. Always. 

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When you enter a new environment, a new circle of life, it is normal to feel yourself being moulded to this particular environment.
And, along the way you may feel like losing yourself just to adapt to this.

You gotta be comfortable with this –
“People will judge you. They will laugh. Criticize. Make you feel inferior. Or that you’re not good enough.”

When you come across those kinds of people, this is actually the universe telling you that these are not your people who will make you grow.
And, it is at this time that you gotta be yourself more.

Stand up your ground. 
You’re unique. Different. 

But, you know what? That’s what makes you awesome!

The right people will cherish you 🙂

 

 

 

You are exactly where you need to be right now!

Pain incites change. 

So, remember if you’re going through a hard phase in your life right now, it’s just because the universe wants you to grow more and that there’s something better out there waiting for you.

I have put up some famous quotes for inspiration:

“This is the key to life: the ability to reflect, the ability to know yourself, the ability to pause for a second before reacting automatically. If you can truly know yourself, you will begin the journey of transformation.” – Deepak Chopra

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” -Michael Jordan

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” -Anais Nin

“There are no regrets in life. Just lessons.”- Jennifer Aniston

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C.S.Lewis

“You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to. ” –Mary Tyler Moore

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”Marilyn Monroe

“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.” Andy Warhol

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”27Lao Tzu

And, the speech I really loved from Taylor Swift:

“I want to say to all the young women out there, there will be people along the way who will try to undercut your success,” she said. “Or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame.But if you just focus on the work … you will look around and you will know that it was you and the people who love you that put you there. That will be the greatest moment.” 

#Be Happy :’)